Welcome to Episode 30 of our podcast, Courageous Conversations, hosted by Leanne Pilkington.
In this episode, we hear from Caroline Bolderston, Director of Being Bold. She talks about her moving from an ambition-driven lifestyle to a more purpose-driven one, the impacts of falling into the comparison trap, why most of her clients have increasing amounts of self-doubt and how we can change our language when it comes to defining our ‘why’.
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00:30 – Caroline’s career in real estate and what she is doing now
02:30 – Realising her point of burnout and that coaching was her calling.
04:50 – 2019 as Caroline’s year of change and her initial growth mindset alongside competing speakers and coaches.
08:00 – ‘The right decision is the hardest.’ The moment Caroline had her tough conversation with herself about the future of the business.
10:00 – Caring about what people think VS caring about what the people you value think
11:30 – The benefits of getting time with yourself and how this helped with Caroline’s decision to scale down.
12:00 – Caroline’s transition from being ambition-driven to meaning-driven.
13:00 – Having a strong support network and how this encouraged Caroline.
15:00 – Social media exhaustion and discussing the over-orchestrating involved with sharing social media content and not being present in the moment.
17:00 – The Daily Stoic email and the podcast
18:00 – “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
19:00 – Discussing the amounts of self-doubt that top-performing agents have; being ambition-driven (e.g. getting that high GCI) causes stress. Focus on personal and ‘purpose-drive’ goals instead.
21:00 – What Caroline responds with when a client asks, “What’s the point?”
22:30 – Having fear about sharing one’s “why”; where the fear comes from (lack of clarity).
23:30 – The pressures of what’s next. When you ask yourself, “what should be next?’ the recognise that ‘should’ is the influence of others around you. Don’t succumb to it!
24:30 – What’s next for Caroline in 2020; ‘no’ is the new ‘yes’.
26:00 – The support that principals need in their teams according to Caroline.
27:00 – Sometimes the thing that most people need to keep going is simply someone to believe in them; someone who has got their back.